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About Sophie McVickar
People Pleasing & Self-Betraying Dressed Up As A High Performer
I spent most of my life on autopilot, putting the needs of everyone else before my own. I worked hard, sacrificing my well-being to meet the next milestone, to get through the "busy" season, the merger, the onboarding. This habit of putting work above my own needs made me the perfect employee, and I often found myself playing the role of The Helper and The Giver to those in my life.
But my body had enough of my self-betrayal and manifested injuries and ailments that forced me to stop and re-evaluate my life and behaviors.
That's when my healing journey began, and the magic started to unfold.
My healing journey brought me back home to myself.
Former Overworked Baddie
And Hustle Culture SubscriberWorking three jobs at a time, I was the embodiment of hustle culture. I took snapchats of my 5am commute to my workout class captioned "let's get this bread" then worked 12-14 hours. Always driven by the conditioned belief I needed to do more; I easily climbed corporate ladders, collecting accolades, becoming team lead, program manager, etc. Yet I never actually felt good enough.
So it comes as no surprise that I couldn't say no. To anyone.
While my life looked normal from the outside, I had no idea who I truly was when I wasn't performing for or serving someone else.
In my early 20s I once looked up online: "how do I know what my core values are?" I didn't know who I was beyond my relation to others.
So I kept people pleasing (self-betraying to serve someone else), finding myself in dynamics that left me feeling powerless, drained, and unworthy. I was stuck in my cycle of self-betraying, constantly over-giving to others. This started to changed when I met Zeal.
Love at first sight saved me.
Enter Zeal, My Soul Dog
My heart was broken open by the most loving, gentle soul. When I met Zeal, all the noise and anxious thoughts melted away and I felt pure, blissful peace.
He modeled to me something I never had seen before: he unapologetically demanded his needs were met and he consistently set boundaries with others around his body, space, and time.
About 2 months after I adopted him, I had a wild epiphany: "what if I cared for myself the way I cared for Zeal?"
That's when my life transformed..
Even after his recent passing, he inspires me daily to show up for myself, consistently and without hesitation. Zeal is the inspiration for the course I am currently offering.
My gifts are enough.
and so are yours...Empowering Others
I always knew entrepreneurship aligned with my purpose, but there was a part of me too afraid to try. For so long I didn't see any of my own gifts, I was too overwhelmed and in survival mode. Owning a business felt terrifying, and my fear of being seen only kept me small.
The universe has a way of making you face your own sh*t. After a year of rejection from jobs and employers, I decided to start offering my skills to my local community, instead of to an employer. As the streamlining queen and tech savant, I empowered many business owners to reclaim some of their time by automating workflows and leveraging software. But that wasn't quite enough...
Most of my clients still found themselves putting work first, over-scheduling, over-giving, and constantly feeling like they had no time for themselves.
So I pivoted.
